And then there is Charlee. She is making us expand our parenting tools. My mom seems to think I get to have her to make me stronger...but I keep saying it isn't fair...I was a perfect little girl. Ask my mom. So, I don't know how to parent her...I don't understand her, but I am learning as I go. The one thing we have learned is that we can't give her an inch...and she is so stubborn (like her dad :) lately we have had to make her sleep in the laundry room (tearing her room apart), she had to wear Liam's diaper (peeing on the bathroom floor), we have had to take things away from her like her favorite baby pic of me and her piggy bank(taking her pony tail out). She got so mad at me yesterday. Told me she wanted to live at a different house. I ignored her, got her in her ballet clothes and put her in the car and went in the house to get Liam and by the time I got back out to the garage she was completely naked. Leotard, tights, shoes, underwear and her pony tail pulled out. She just glared at me. I wanted to beat her...she is lucky that she only got a bop on her head with the leotard. She cried the whole way to class and I turned the radio up so that I couldn't hear her. Before she went to class we said a prayer so Heavenly Father could help her calm down and let her know how much I love her. The day got better from there...
And then there is Liam. So happy...all the time. So full of smiles. He gets around, but can't crawl yet. Gets stuck in corners and loves to play with door stops. Loves to eat...we haven't given him something he doesn't like...but LOVES pumpkin pie! Says dadadadada all the time. He loves nick. As soon as he comes home Liam just gets giddy because he knows they are going to wrestle.
I wish I could freeze this time in our lives...so blessed.
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Liam is adorable! And I am sorry your little princess is so strong willed. Maybe there is a need for strong headed women in the next 20 years... Hopefully...
I do have some good news from our experience from Kaylee. She is still our hardest kid but the fights have changed and improved. A lot of her attitude she just had to outgrow-I know that doesn't sound like good news but that means when she's six and you get her ready for ballet she won't strip naked she will just cry because all the kids are going to laugh at her for wearing the wrong color and she doesn't even want to go anymore. They are just more manageable. And then we also have glimpses when she is really good it just took her much longer to get there than the others. Jana could be right. We might just need these stubborn children in the future to stand for what's right. I often wonder how my girls will play out. Which ones will make the big mistakes and which ones won't. I could see Kaylee being spiteful enough that she will be good just to prove my expectations wrong. I would be fine with that. Good luck.
You were a perfect little girl... so much like Nae in some ways... but waaaaayyyy different in others. It would be nice if you could insist she do what you expect of her... without getting so mad at her. It would be nice if you could just sigh, roll your eyes, get her redressed and then laugh. For some reason, she touches your emotions... your mad button... Maybe you are mad because she thinks she is in control and you think you are in control. Maybe you are mad because she is not a "good" girl and you expect her to be. Maybe she fails to meet your expectations of a little girl in ponies, patent leather, loving cute clothes, wearing underwear, etc. I think it may come down to the fact that she does not want to do what YOU want her to do and you can't talk her, bribe her, pay her, force her or beat her into submission. You are used to getting your own way. You have met your match my darling daughter.
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